You can’t go to ten social media pages on any social platform without being barraged by #hustle #grind and #success posts or memes. It appears we’re obsessed with the path or secret to success. In this week’s episode we talk about getting better and how to handle negative feedback.
Lets get started.
The Hardest Part to Getting Better
I get it. Success to most of us equals freedom and validation that we’re worthy of others praise and admiration. To others, success says they did it. They achieved their goals. The concept of success is a powerful lure, and we’re all chasing it to one degree or another.
I think we’re over thinking it. There is no “secret” to success. The path to success almost always comes down to one thing? Being great, I mean really, really, good at what you do.
I call this being a 1%er.
A 1%er is someone who is better than 99 out of 100 people at what they do.
If you’re a 1%er, then it’s almost impossible not to be successful.
Becoming a 1%er takes work and commitment. It requires sacrifice, selfawareness, humility, coaching and knowledge, and more.
I spent a week this last European summer, as I have in the past, trying to get better at meditating. It’s one of the areas I want to be and continue to be a 1%er.
I’m at a place now where getting better comes in smaller and smaller increments and is usually preceded by getting worse before I see the improvement. I have to put in some serious time, and it’s frustrating. The improvement I’m looking for just doesn’t come fast enough and feels like it may never come.
But I keep trying.
There is a point in learning I call, the peak of positive return.
The peak of positive return is when the amount of effort you put into something is greater than the improvement you get back. It’s the point when hours and hours if not days and weeks of effort return the smallest of improvement. Most people quit at that point of positive return. They stop getting better quickly and don’t want to put in the additional work required to get better.
Becoming a 1%er requires you get past this critical point of positive return.
I spent a week trying to get slightly better, and as always it’s the best time I put in every year.
Success is about being a 1%er.
Becoming a 1%er is about getting better every day and pushing way past the point of positive return.
Are you on a 1%er journey?
What To Do With Negative Feedback
Let me be clear, there is a difference between negative feedback and constructive feedback that highlights a weakness, or something you could improve.
I’m a huge fan of constructive feedback. Actually, I seek it out. I want as much feedback in the areas I can improve as I can get. It’s the only way to get better.
Negative feedback, on the other hand, is just that it’s negative. Negative feedback isn’t constructive, it’s driven by negative intentions. Negative feedback isn’t intended to help the recipient to get better or improve, but rather to tear them down, that’s why it’s negative.
When it comes to negative feedback, I have no time for it. Whether it’s a troll on the Internet, sharing their mind-numbing opinion or someone in real life, if their feedback is negative, driven by some ulterior motive to tear me, my content, or my ideas down, I pay it no mind and neither, should you.
So, don’t give negative feedback a second look. Negative feedback is all about the person delivering it and has nothing to do with you.
There is only productive positive feedback, no matter how uncomfortable it makes us feel. Negative feedback isn’t feedback, it’s an attack driven by self-motivated, selfish behavior, and no one needs that crap in their life.
Ignore negative feedback, ’cause that’s all it is — negative.